Author: Elly

Series Introduction: Wellness

The connection between mind and body has been widely studied and consistently replicated. Staying active, along with eating some certain kinds of foods, has been found to alleviate a variety of symptoms related to mental health. As a lover of exercise and former college athlete, I love being active in a way that feels good both physically and emotionally. Here, I will explore healthy eating, motivation for exercise, development of a routine that works for you, and body positivity.

Series Introduction: Relationships

My husband and I met in 2012 through college athletics. He was cute and really fast, I was a basket case, so voilà, we naturally started dating. Throughout our 5 year dating relationship and now almost 2 years of marriage, we have learned a lot about ourselves, each other, and relationships as a whole. Humble brag: I married the most genuinely kind person on the planet. In return, he got a wife that makes really good banana bread, so I’d say it’s a fair trade. In all seriousness, there have been times where our relationship has been really easy, but also times where we’ve had to work at it. I’d love to share what we’ve done to make the good times great and the hard times better. In this series of posts on intimate relationships, I’ll focus on skills we’ve learned, tricks we’ve tried, what has worked (and what hasn’t), and great advice we’ve been given to help our relationship flourish.

Series Introduction: Mental Health

Our thoughts and emotions are powerful. They dictate how we see the world and how we act on it. Having unhelpful ways of thinking, along with some deep and unaddressed hurts is so, sonormal. And yet, these are really hard to talk about. It’s all too easy to slap a smile over our struggles and pretend they aren’t there. We put that painful stuff in a dusty box in the farthest corners of our closet, and keep the new, shiny shoes up front. And that’s okay for a little while. The problem is, the longer we wait to really look at what we’ve put in that closet, the heavier our box becomes. So, let’s do some spring cleaning: let’s look at what we’ve put away and see if it’s something we really want to carry with us into our next chapter. If not, let’s work day by day to slowly set it down.

Welcome to 5% of my blog!

Hi y’all! I’m seeing some fresh faces on here. I was not expecting anyone to be checking this out yet, but I’m thrilled to see you so soon! I’m new to this and j u s t starting to add content to my page. If you’re curious about what’s to come, I will be posting on topics related to mental health, relationships, physical wellness, and faith. Thanks so much for reading and see you soon. 🙂

Stuck Like Gum: What to Do with Anxious Thoughts

First of all, why do people think it’s okay to stick gum in random public places? I will step in gum, realize I stepped in gum, and then silently resign myself to have that gum be part of me forever. Maybe that’s a little melodramatic, but brace yourselves because I’m about to make it worse with a cheesy transition: The problem with gum is that it’s sticky, and unfortunately, the same can be said of life. (Did you cringe? I cringed.) Sometimes people or situations hurt us in ways that get stuck in the grooves of our mind. It leaves a sticky little scar that won’t seem to really heal. What’s something that’s gotten stuck for you? Something that you feel should have been long forgotten, but still pops up to rear its ugly head? Maybe it’s something that was painful in a way you didn’t understand, or something that struck a chord very close to some big insecurities. For me, one of those somethings is my relationship with a former boss of mine. They …

So nice to see you,

and I’m so glad you stopped by! I’m Elly: a Christian, wife, and overly-invested dog mom who loves sunshine, coffee shops, working out, and time with family. I am currently working towards my Doctorate in Counseling Psychology and I love sharing what I’ve learned with others. Although I definitely don’t have all the answers, my research and counseling practice these last few years have led me to notice what keeps us from feeling happy, energized, and fulfilled. I decided to create a space dedicated to exploring some of these issues (and some of what I’ve found helpful). So, take a break from the mindless scrolling, take a breath, and take a moment to invest in your own well-being. Disclaimer: Online resources are not a substitute for therapy. What is shared on this page is my own experience and descriptions of others’ research findings. What is written is not endorsed by or reflective of my program of study. Should you hope to find a therapist near you, you may visit Additionally, the national suicide prevention …