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Relationships and Rejection: A Letter to Your Broken Heart

Right now, the words “moving on” feel unbearably heavy. Right now, words that are meant to encourage you seem to never land, sliding off the cold shield that is your pain. “If that is true, then why did they leave?” Right now, the concept of “finding someone else” feels like a hopeless endeavor in which you want no part. “I didn’t want someone else; I wanted them.” And now that they are gone, you want to forget them, but a cruel tether of nostalgia pulls you back to feelings that you don’t wish to feel. Right now, what hurts the most is the fact that you let them see you; you let yourself be really, truly seen. You gave them the best you had to give, all you had to offer, and that makes the sting of goodbye so much worse. Worse because that sense of safety is betrayed, and worse because it feels like your best was not enough.  Right now feels so powerful, so immeasurable and weighty that it seems as though your …

Series Introduction: Relationships

My husband and I met in 2012 through college athletics. He was cute and really fast, I was a basket case, so voilà, we naturally started dating. Throughout our 5 year dating relationship and now almost 2 years of marriage, we have learned a lot about ourselves, each other, and relationships as a whole. Humble brag: I married the most genuinely kind person on the planet. In return, he got a wife that makes really good banana bread, so I’d say it’s a fair trade. In all seriousness, there have been times where our relationship has been really easy, but also times where we’ve had to work at it. I’d love to share what we’ve done to make the good times great and the hard times better. In this series of posts on intimate relationships, I’ll focus on skills we’ve learned, tricks we’ve tried, what has worked (and what hasn’t), and great advice we’ve been given to help our relationship flourish.