All posts tagged: Faith

Comparison and Contentment

In a time where we are preoccupied with maintaining appearances both online and in-person, we go through our days managing the impressions we make on other people. We wear clothes we think strangers will approve of, we post pictures we think will accrue the most “likes,” all the while running from the feeling that we’re doing it all wrong. At the end of the day, we pour over the profiles of beautiful people with impressive resumes, comparing our messy life and stained pajamas with that carefully curated picture. We know it’s not real: that the beautiful smiles of airbrushed influencers or the perfect home of that mommy-blogger are not real life. We know that everyone posts their shiny moments, the ones where they look brave, the ones where the dirt is swept beneath the rug, and demons safely locked away. We know that we are comparing our worst moments to other’s highlight reels, and yet, we still set down our phones with the heavy feeling that we are inferior, that we are not enough. The …

Hearts in Christ: Where Are You Anchored?

As we sail through life’s trials and victories, we are ever prone to the realization that it feels good to invest our worth in places other than our God. Our work, a relationship, others’ perceptions of us, all promise us joy, security, and future. We fill our heart’s throne (the place Lord was meant to live) with little trophies of what we’ve won in life: what we own, what we’ve accomplished, signs that we are admired by those we wished to please. We set sail with our treasures and we set these trophies–our heart’s anchors–down in turbulent seas. We congratulate ourselves for our ability to finesse the waters. How clever, how wonderful must we be to have beaten the odds! But even more, we think we will be safe here. We fail to notice crashing waves, unforgiving rocks, and menacing creatures down below. As we sleep, these rocks and waves pull relentlessly at cords tying ship to anchor, and heart to desire. And when those cords inevitably, painfully snap, we are left reeling, off balance, …

Chocolate’s Not for Dogs: When God says, “No”

My dog, Maple, is a really, really smart dog. But the thing is, the smartest dog in the world is still not as smart as me. Why? Obviously because I’m a genius. But also because I’m a human being, and my brain is much more complex and developed than hers. I bring this up because right now, as I type this, I am eating some chocolate and my dog is begging for me to share. But, as any good dog-mom knows, chocolate is not for dogs. In fact, chocolate is poisonous for dogs. Little Maple has no idea: all the data her senses are giving her say that it would be a great idea to have some. However, despite the pleasing aroma and the joy she would get from chomping down on my candy, it would hurt her badly. I know this, and because I love her, I won’t let her have any. Do you know where this is going? I’m hoping you do, because if not, you probably think this post is about the …

Series Introduction: Faith

For me, I view my faith as intimately related to every other area of my life, but particularly to my emotional well-being. I think there is something in us that longs for our Creator; the grace and peace He offers us is uniquely satisfying to souls that thirst for the love only He can give. Though I believe these truths with my whole heart, I fail so often to live my life in a way that reflects the extent of the grace I’ve been given. I consistently struggle with forgetting my worth in Christ, who I am in Him, and how deeply I am loved. To fill the void, I try to find worth in other places, which inevitably leave me wanting. Thankfully, my God is patient and unceasingly kind. He waits for me to remember Him, and loves me like I never left. I am writing this series as a reminder to myself, and maybe to you too, that I want my words and deeds to reflect the kindness I’ve received; that I want …

So nice to see you,

and I’m so glad you stopped by! I’m Elly: a Christian, wife, and overly-invested dog mom who loves sunshine, coffee shops, working out, and time with family. I am currently working towards my Doctorate in Counseling Psychology and I love sharing what I’ve learned with others. Although I definitely don’t have all the answers, my research and counseling practice these last few years have led me to notice what keeps us from feeling happy, energized, and fulfilled. I decided to create a space dedicated to exploring some of these issues (and some of what I’ve found helpful). So, take a break from the mindless scrolling, take a breath, and take a moment to invest in your own well-being. Disclaimer: Online resources are not a substitute for therapy. What is shared on this page is my own experience and descriptions of others’ research findings. What is written is not endorsed by or reflective of my program of study. Should you hope to find a therapist near you, you may visit PsychologyToday.com. Additionally, the national suicide prevention …