All posts tagged: mental illness

Coping With Loneliness: The Basic Psychological Need for Relatedness

This is the fourth and final post in a series about the three most important needs identified in psychological research to human health and happiness: autonomy, competence, and relatedness. Today, we’re rounding out the series with a discussion of the importance of human connection. This third need, called “relatedness,” is the idea that we need to feel close to other people. You might be thinking, “Duh, Elly. Everyone needs people,” and you’re right. This need is likely one you’ve thought a lot about, and there’s a reason for that: because it’s so darn essential to human living. Need For Human Connection: What the Research Says To prove my point, here are just a few of the hundreds of studies on this need for human contact. The need for social connectedness is statistically linked to: self-esteem (Leary & Downs, 1995), depression (Peeters, Nicolson, Berkhof, Delespaul, & deVries, 2003), suicide risk (Christensen, Batterham, Mackinnon, Donker, & Soubelet, 2014), sense of vitality and life satisfaction (Léon & Liew, 2017), and positive and negative affect, meaning the emotional states …

Supplements for Mental and Physical Health: Which Ones You Should Start Taking

Our bodies are complex vehicles, and the type and amount of fuel we put into them influences the way they run. The human body requires essential nutrients, some of which we get a lot of, some of which we don’t. Micronutrients (vitamins and minerals) are involved in pretty much every bodily function/process you have, but unfortunately, the typical American diet is pretty lacking in these nutrients. When one of these key players in your optimal mental and physical health is missing, it leaves a hole that cannot be filled with anything else. Some of the signs you may be micronutrient-deficient include sluggishness, fatigue, dizziness, poor immune system functioning, brittle bones, or fertility issues. To address the underlying cause of these symptoms, taking daily supplements can get you back on track towards feeling your best. Although I try not to pop a pill to solve everything, I am a fervent supporter of taking daily supplements. Keep reading for which supplements to take, as well as links to the highest quality and most cost-effective supplements on Amazon. …

Tricking Your Brain into a Happier Life: The Power of Selective Attention

As we go through our daily lives, we are bombarded with a sea of new sensory input. Scientists have discussed how, in a given moment, there are thousands of sights, sounds and ideas our brains have to sift through to decide what’s important. So, in any moment, what we actually, see, hear, and think about is simply what our brains decided was worth our time. What does this have to do with anxiety, mental health, and happiness? Glad you asked. Selective Attention: The Problem What our brains tells us to pay attention to dictates the information we have about our world. Importantly, the information that our brain believes to be relevant is determined by our own beliefs. Here’s an example: I’m terrified of spiders. Fortunately (and unfortunately), I also possess a super-human ability to notice even the tiniest or most well-hidden spider. Why is this the case? Well, because my fear of spiders has told my brain that any information pertaining to spiders is something that the boss-lady (a.k.a. me) is probably going to want …

Series Introduction: Mental Health

Our thoughts and emotions are powerful. They dictate how we see the world and how we act on it. Having unhelpful ways of thinking, along with some deep and unaddressed hurts is so, sonormal. And yet, these are really hard to talk about. It’s all too easy to slap a smile over our struggles and pretend they aren’t there. We put that painful stuff in a dusty box in the farthest corners of our closet, and keep the new, shiny shoes up front. And that’s okay for a little while. The problem is, the longer we wait to really look at what we’ve put in that closet, the heavier our box becomes. So, let’s do some spring cleaning: let’s look at what we’ve put away and see if it’s something we really want to carry with us into our next chapter. If not, let’s work day by day to slowly set it down.

So nice to see you,

and I’m so glad you stopped by! I’m Elly: a Christian, wife, and overly-invested dog mom who loves sunshine, coffee shops, working out, and time with family. I am currently working towards my Doctorate in Counseling Psychology and I love sharing what I’ve learned with others. Although I definitely don’t have all the answers, my research and counseling practice these last few years have led me to notice what keeps us from feeling happy, energized, and fulfilled. I decided to create a space dedicated to exploring some of these issues (and some of what I’ve found helpful). So, take a break from the mindless scrolling, take a breath, and take a moment to invest in your own well-being. Disclaimer: Online resources are not a substitute for therapy. What is shared on this page is my own experience and descriptions of others’ research findings. What is written is not endorsed by or reflective of my program of study. Should you hope to find a therapist near you, you may visit PsychologyToday.com. Additionally, the national suicide prevention …